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Raising Our Future Leaders with Empathy


A new way, a new strong. Emotional Courage is about noticing and expressing your own feelings, and listening to others’ emotional expression, even when that’s hard to do. It stands in contrast to the old “tough guy” model, emerging as a new path for parents and burgeoning leaders in the community.

 

Emotional Courage is about noticing and expressing your own feelings, and listening to others’ emotional expression, even when that’s hard to do. It stands in contrast to the old “tough guy” model, emerging as a new path for parents and burgeoning leaders in the community. The next addition to our creature collection is Ibex, here to model a new way by showing us that ‘toughness’ comes in even the softest of forms. A new way, a new strong. 

Ibex is our sweet little mountain goat who loves to jump and play with friends, but not everything is fun and games. Like many of us, our young goat was born with a big and open heart, often feeling the pain of the world when things go wrong (and sometimes it feels like a LOT is going wrong!).  With this big open heart, Ibex learns how to access resilience and do hard things even when times get tough. In other words, Ibex learns about courage.

The kind of courage Ibex wants us to know about, though, is not one of fake toughness, posturing, or making empty statements about one’s own greatness. It’s the kind of courage that is soft and strong at the same time. It’s the kind that opens our hearts instead of shutting them. Emotional Courage is something we carry deep within us that helps us notice and embrace our tougher feelings. It’s about finding resilience through hard things and embracing tough conversations. Above all, Ibex shows us that we can be tough, open, and loving, all at the same time. For many of us, it’s a new type of courage to learn about. It is a courage that we grow from deep inside, one that we can practice and develop.

We believe that if children learn Emotional Courage from a young age they will carry this learning into any role they take on as an adult. From being a world leader to being a leader of self, we all can benefit from exploring how to show up and do the right thing, even when it's hard. 

The ability to access Emotional Courage can lead to these positive outcomes: 

  • Tolerating distressing and uncomfortable feelings (like sadness and guilt) without the need to avoid, numb feelings, or blame others. 
  • Regulating emotions and learn from emotional states
  • Asking for help when needed
  • Feeling okay with not having all the answers
  • Having conversations that may be uncomfortable but are necessary
  • The inner strength to stand up for what you know is right
  • The strength and ability to intervene when witnessing injustice
  • Listening and empathizing with others
  • Cooperating with others and processing take-in of new information 
  • Accessing resilience, even through adversity 

Emotional Courage is one of those things that we cannot just “tell” our children about, we have to show it. The way we relate to emotions, the things we value, and don’t value, the things we respond to and don’t respond to are oftentimes unspoken “rules” in a family that everyone understands on some level including children. This is why parents must be the ones to do the work first to make sure that children can learn from us as models of behaviors and qualities we hope to grow in our children. Here are some steps to help you get started if you are interested in building Emotional Courage in your family: 

Boy and father reading ibex and embracing

7 Steps to Practice and Model Emotional Courage When Raising Future Leaders: 

  • Notice your Feelings: The first and most important step for emotional courage is first to notice what you are feeling. If you can face your own feelings, even the really really strong ones, then you can do anything!
  • Accept all your Feelings: We cannot move through a place of courage and bravery, without acknowledging what is challenging us. It is brave to notice your feelings and accept them. Only once we accept what is, can we move through it, to a new place. 
  • Let go of Perfection: People aren’t perfect. We all have challenges, we all make mistakes, and we ALL have big feelings. When we let go of being “perfect” it allows us to notice how things are and what we need to do from here. 
  • Listen to Others: Listening is a real strength. Sometimes we get caught in our own heads and our own feelings, but if we take a moment to peek out with curiosity, we can learn from others, and take in information that can be really helpful to us. Listening to others’ thoughts and feelings can help us grow.
  • Get Clear on What is Important to You: Listen deeply to yourself. You may have fears and worries about something but listen to that deeper voice that knows what is right for you. Your inner wisdom will show up for you if you listen in. 
  • Face Challenges: Sometimes a call to Emotional Courage requires action. It could be that you need to stand up for yourself or advocate for others. Make a plan and follow through!
  • Ask for Help: One of the most courageous things people can do is ask for help when they need it - and we all need it sometimes. Reach out to your friends, family, or a professional. We don’t have to have all the answers. 

If the idea of emotions as “strong” was not one you grew up with, these steps may be harder than they seem. Oftentimes we have part of us that believes one thing, and another part that remembers the old messaging that we grew up with. It can take some time and practice to truly master these steps. Maybe just pick one to start with. If you struggle with perfectionism, or with asking others for help -start there. Practice these steps in front of your children. Let them in on your process.  Emotional Courage is not a destination, it’s a journey. It’s not something we can just arrive at, it’s a constant process we can engage to listen deeply to ourselves and others, and a conscious choice to value empathy and love over toughness and power.

Learn More About Our Emotional Courage Collection Here.

 

40 comments

  • Sarah

    I know a few guys who could use this including my husband! I’m a strong believer in expressing your Emotions and understanding them. I hope to instill this in my boys as they get older!


  • Nancy

    My daughter could benefit from this to help her feel accepted. This ibex is so cute also.


  • Samantha BIshop

    I am raising 3 kids under the age of 3 years old. I just lost my dad from metastatic bladder cancer and he spent 10 days of his last month alive living with my family so we could enjoy his company as much as possible and since he was on hospice and needed to be quarantined we quarantined for 14 days I order to make our home and family safe for him. My oldest will be three in 3 days and she understands the most about loosing grandpa and has been so brave while he was sick. Sprite has been a blessing to us as well. I sleep with it and we read the story and watch the video on Vooks each night.


  • Cathy Ristow

    This is such a important message and wonderful way to teach it especially with everything going on now in the world today, little ones need to be able to speak about there feelings and listen in regards to others feelings.
    Thank you for giving such wonderful tools to help navigate the way to grow happy little humans ❤


  • Katy

    The message and teaching of emotional courage is so significant because it is one of those lifelong skills not always taught and often mis-instructed. I know that personally, being able to identify my feelings and then share them has been a life long lesson and one of the most difficult parts is maintaining physiological composure while addressing strong emotions. I see this with both of my teenagers and try to help them practice being strong by being vulnerable, genuine, empathetic, kind and brave. I want to instill this in my two year old son as well. I think I was taught (inadvertently) to repress my overwhelming emotions in order to maintain composure and I want for my children to feel composure and strength through being emotionally in touch, courageous and honest; to listen in order to learn and have the flexibility to change their mindset when presented with new information. I want them to tackle the hardest things in life with security of self to support them. I believe ibex teaches this and is a valuable addition to the Slumberkins family; welcome Ibex! 🤍🐏🙌


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