Raising Our Future Leaders with Empathy

A new way, a new strong. Emotional Courage is about noticing and expressing your own feelings, and listening to others’ emotional expressions, even when that’s hard to do. It stands in contrast to the old “tough guy” model, emerging as a new path for parents and burgeoning leaders in the community.


Emotional Courage is about noticing and expressing your own feelings, and listening to others’ emotional expression, even when that’s hard to do. It stands in contrast to the old “tough guy” model, emerging as a new path for parents and burgeoning leaders in the community. The next addition to our creature collection is Ibex, here to model a new way by showing us that ‘toughness’ comes in even the softest of forms. A new way, a new strong. 

Ibex is our sweet little mountain goat who loves to jump and play with friends, but not everything is fun and games. Like many of us, our young goat was born with a big and open heart, often feeling the pain of the world when things go wrong (and sometimes it feels like a LOT is going wrong!).  With this big open heart, Ibex learns how to access resilience and do hard things even when times get tough. In other words, Ibex learns about courage.

The kind of courage Ibex wants us to know about, though, is not one of fake toughness, posturing, or making empty statements about one’s own greatness. It’s the kind of courage that is soft and strong at the same time. It’s the kind that opens our hearts instead of shutting them. Emotional Courage is something we carry deep within us that helps us notice and embrace our tougher feelings. It’s about finding resilience through hard things and embracing tough conversations. Above all, Ibex shows us that we can be tough, open, and loving, all at the same time. For many of us, it’s a new type of courage to learn about. It is a courage that we grow from deep inside, one that we can practice and develop.

We believe that if children learn Emotional Courage from a young age they will carry this learning into any role they take on as an adult. From being a world leader to being a leader of self, we all can benefit from exploring how to show up and do the right thing, even when it's hard. 

The ability to access Emotional Courage can lead to these positive outcomes: 

  • Tolerating distressing and uncomfortable feelings (like sadness and guilt) without the need to avoid, numb feelings, or blame others. 
  • Regulating emotions and learn from emotional states
  • Asking for help when needed
  • Feeling okay with not having all the answers
  • Having conversations that may be uncomfortable but are necessary
  • The inner strength to stand up for what you know is right
  • The strength and ability to intervene when witnessing injustice
  • Listening and empathizing with others
  • Cooperating with others and processing take-in of new information 
  • Accessing resilience, even through adversity 

Emotional Courage is one of those things that we cannot just “tell” our children about, we have to show it. The way we relate to emotions, the things we value, and don’t value, the things we respond to and don’t respond to are oftentimes unspoken “rules” in a family that everyone understands on some level including children. This is why parents must be the ones to do the work first to make sure that children can learn from us as models of behaviors and qualities we hope to grow in our children. Here are some steps to help you get started if you are interested in building Emotional Courage in your family: 

Boy and father reading ibex and embracing

7 Steps to Practice and Model Emotional Courage When Raising Future Leaders: 

  • Notice your Feelings: The first and most important step for emotional courage is first to notice what you are feeling. If you can face your own feelings, even the really really strong ones, then you can do anything!
  • Accept all your Feelings: We cannot move through a place of courage and bravery, without acknowledging what is challenging us. It is brave to notice your feelings and accept them. Only once we accept what is, can we move through it, to a new place. 
  • Let go of Perfection: People aren’t perfect. We all have challenges, we all make mistakes, and we ALL have big feelings. When we let go of being “perfect” it allows us to notice how things are and what we need to do from here. 
  • Listen to Others: Listening is a real strength. Sometimes we get caught in our own heads and our own feelings, but if we take a moment to peek out with curiosity, we can learn from others, and take in information that can be really helpful to us. Listening to others’ thoughts and feelings can help us grow.
  • Get Clear on What is Important to You: Listen deeply to yourself. You may have fears and worries about something but listen to that deeper voice that knows what is right for you. Your inner wisdom will show up for you if you listen in. 
  • Face Challenges: Sometimes a call to Emotional Courage requires action. It could be that you need to stand up for yourself or advocate for others. Make a plan and follow through!
  • Ask for Help: One of the most courageous things people can do is ask for help when they need it - and we all need it sometimes. Reach out to your friends, family, or a professional. We don’t have to have all the answers. 

If the idea of emotions as “strong” was not one you grew up with, these steps may be harder than they seem. Oftentimes we have part of us that believes one thing, and another part that remembers the old messaging that we grew up with. It can take some time and practice to truly master these steps. Maybe just pick one to start with. If you struggle with perfectionism, or with asking others for help -start there. Practice these steps in front of your children. Let them in on your process.  Emotional Courage is not a destination, it’s a journey. It’s not something we can just arrive at, it’s a constant process we can engage to listen deeply to ourselves and others, and a conscious choice to value empathy and love over toughness and power.

Learn More About Our Emotional Courage Collection Here.



  • Mae Liboiron

    My 5 year old would be the one I would give Ibex to, he has so many emotions and tries so hard every day.
    He feels things so hard, and what with everything going on in the world today and my little guy possibly starting kindergarten next fall, well, I think we’re both going to need Ibex’s guidance❤

  • Sara S

    Such a wonderful lesson and perfect opportunity to release it. During this very scary time my daughters (8&6)have missed the last 10 weeks of school. They miss their friends and are struggling with their emotions but they are having issues with figuring out exactly how they feel. I know they are sad, hurt and lonely. My oldest is a very emotional girl but its often hard to pinpoint why. I think the entire family would benefit given this time of uncertainty. I want my three girls to know that its ok to be scared and its something that we can always get through.

  • Amanda Sutton

    My youngest son could benefit from this as he is super empathetic and tries so hard to do things correctly, but really struggles with spelling and writing. We are waiting on his diagnosis this week for possible dyslexia/dysgraphia etc. and facing the possibility of having to enroll him in a different school who can meet these needs. He has already stated he doesn’t want to have to change schools, and has developed anxiety over the last year or so, so this is all going to be a difficult decision. I just want him to realize he is perfect the way God made hime irregardless of learning things differently than the majority of his peers.

  • Savannah

    I absolutely love this. It’s so incredibly important that we raise emotionally healthy children and these are wonderful and practical ways that can help parents learn to teach their kids.

  • Amanda Anderson

    Such a powerful message for all ages! I’m so glad to have theses resources for my daughter growing up. I hope she will be able to take these messages and use them to speak her mind, and stand up for what she knows is right, even if it means going against the grain.

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