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Why Every Child Should Have a Comfort Corner

August 27, 2018

Why Every Child Should Have a Comfort Corner

There’s no should or should not when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.  - Mr Fred Rogers

 

The Scenario

If you're a parent, chances are pretty high that you’ve dealt with a meltdown or two… or two hundred. The cracker that broke in half and can't be fixed, the sock that doesn't fit, the container that won't open, the food is too hot, or too cold, or too colorful…. you name it, we've all been there. These problems may feel small to us, but in the eyes of your child, a situation like this can seem very big. Whether these moments feel overwhelming, frustrating, sad, or hilarious, all we want is for our little ones to feel better and go back to being their happy little selves as quickly as possible.

Situations (no matter how big or small) create feelings, and feelings result in a response. For example, the broken cracker scenario. First, the cracker breaks. Next, reality strikes that this can't be changed and the child has a flood of feelings, including frustration, anger, and sadness. Finally, the child responds by throwing the cracker and themselves onto the kitchen floor, screaming "It's ruined! I can't eat it! It won't go back together."

Situations = Broken Cracker     Feeling = Frustrated      Response = Tantrum

In moments of frustration our little ones hear nothing we say. Attempts at recovering tranquility never seem to work. During these moments, it is helpful to have a designated space where a child has the tools they need to help themselves calm down. 

Introduce a Comfort Corner

From years of experience in the classroom and in our own homes, we know how helpful it can be to create a safe and comforting space for children. This space can be used in a variety of situations - a place to calm down from a tantrum or just a quiet place to unwind after a long day. Young children are still learning to regulate their emotions and how to respond to what can often become overwhelming feelings. Self-regulation is the ability to manage emotions and behaviors when presented with upsetting or just too much stimuli. More simply put, self-regulation is the ability to stop and think before reacting when faced with a problem. Until a child has developed the skills to self-regulate their emotions, creating a designated Comfort Corner with a variety of tools to help calm down when emotions get too big can be a huge support (for child and parent!). 

Make a Routine

Teach your child a calming routine and show them the choices they have within the Comfort Corner for when their emotions feel too big. Role-play what to do if your child gets upset or just needs to settle into the evening. Practice walking to the Comfort Corner, taking deep breaths, and using the tools you have set up to support your child. The Comfort Corner should be a space used to calm down, not a place of punishment - this is not meant for ‘time-out’. This will help your child understand that negative emotions are normal and okay to have and that they have the ability to self-regulate these feelings. The goal being that when a negative situation occurs, and big feelings increase, your child will use this space to respond in a safe and appropriate manner. The beginning stages of self-regulation! The Comfort Corner is also a great space for a child when they are overly excited and struggling with having a calm body. You can teach a separate routine when this scenario takes place. Remind your child they can take themselves to the Comfort Corner anytime they feel they need to calm down.

Setting Up A Comfort Corner

Read our Parent Resource Guide: How To Create The Perfect Comfort Corner and check out a few of our favorite tools below to help get you started.  

Cozy Environment: 

 

Comfort Tools:  

Sensory Tools:

 

DIY: How to Make Sensory Bottles

 

 



61 Responses

Julie
Julie

August 29, 2018

The best idea I have ever heard!!!! As I became a new mama this year, this is definitely one of the best ideas I could use!!! It’s a great way our little ones can just reset 😊

Lusine Naljayan
Lusine Naljayan

August 29, 2018

I love this room very much. Thank you for sharing with all of us!!! Great tips for mom ❤️

Tami
Tami

August 28, 2018

What a great idea!! Might have to make this in my bedroom as the kids rooms are too small, but the sensory toys and comfort toys are a great idea. Adding this to my arsenal now that we’re in the terrific twos!

Kathleen zolondek
Kathleen zolondek

August 28, 2018

I wish they had had this concept out there when I was teaching but since I cannot benefit, Teresa Huneke, a kindergarten teacher, certainly can. I do hope she wins. An excellent teacher using this excellent product

katrina
katrina

August 28, 2018

such good insight. i wouldve never thought of something like this. thank you for sharing this :)

Mary
Mary

August 28, 2018

These are such great resources for parents and teachers to have. Teaching our kids to connect to and recognize their emotions is a wonder life skill! Thank you for sharing these ideas.

Stephanie
Stephanie

August 28, 2018

What a wonderful idea!

Allie Futterer
Allie Futterer

August 28, 2018

My teacher/aunt Ronnie Ross and friend and mum Christine Faria could certainly use one of these, as could I for that matter!

Amy carroll
Amy carroll

August 28, 2018

Omg I love this idea I have to do this for my kiddos !!!! 💗

Brittany
Brittany

August 28, 2018

I love this!! I have a feeling my kids would respond really well to a comfort corner in our home. We try to practice our breathing when we get upset which does help!

Christina
Christina

August 28, 2018

This is such a great idea. When I was a teacher I often gave kids “breaks” to calm down and regroup but never thought of it at home. I can see my kindergartener using a space like this, she likes to make all kinds of plans in her head and when they don’t go exactly as she planned she goes into full breakdown mode, if she had a comforting place, it could give her a chance to relax a bit and rearrange her plans and express how she feels instead of just being angry.

Megan B
Megan B

August 28, 2018

Love this!! My littles have been out of sorts since our cross country move and a little space just for them might be what they need ❤️

Irene
Irene

August 28, 2018

Terrible 2’s began early for my 18 month old, this is a great idea to create calm surroundings and soothe any ruffled feathers. Awesome post!

Casey r
Casey r

August 28, 2018

I love this. The egg chair is amazing. We’re currently dealing with big emotions with a 2 and 4 year old. I love this positive idea.

Lauren
Lauren

August 28, 2018

This is such an amazing idea. My oldest daughter (6) still struggles to recover from a meltdown and I think this is exactly what she needs. It never dawned on me to create a space like this that could help her (she has always loved sensory things – orbeez, putty, etc) instead of me trying to reason with her which usually ends up leaving me exasperated. There are 5 little ones in our house and this concept is something I will definitely be trying!

Sarah
Sarah

August 28, 2018

Very interesting concept. My daughter just turned one and she has intense reactions to things even at her age. A Comfort Corner would be a great space to create for her as she enters her toddler years. Keep up the great work, ladies and keep the great ideas coming!

Emily Belcher
Emily Belcher

August 28, 2018

I love this a lot! I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old, so “cracker scenario” is a daily occurrence. It is so hard as a parent to not expect adult responses from them. This is such a good reminder, with such a simple solution. Thanks for helping us remember to guide and walk alongside our little ones when they need us! <3

Mandy
Mandy

August 27, 2018

My toddler is reaching the “terrible two” stage, and beginning to throw tantrums. I’ve been trying different methods to help calm him, but haven’t found one that works. I think this is a great idea to have a special space for comfort, not discipline. Thanks for sharing!

Ashley Y
Ashley Y

August 27, 2018

I love this idea of a comfort corner and teaching our kids how to regulate their emotions. I think this would be really helpful to implement this at home for my daughter.

Jordan Dudley
Jordan Dudley

August 27, 2018

As a brand new mom, I love this idea! I’m constantly looking at ways to better myself and further my understanding of the emotions of children, as we all know they can be a little irrational. I believe this is such a great idea and can help children learn to better deal with their emotions! I can’t wait to go incorporate something similar in our home!

Bobbie Farnum
Bobbie Farnum

August 27, 2018

These comfort corners are amazing! We use similar ideas in our home as well! Heck, I have one for myself-nothing fancy, just a blanket, pillow, and my favorite chair. I love the setup of the photos-you guys are amazing!

Chantel
Chantel

August 27, 2018

Such a great idea! The children in my life definitely need something like this. My son is a rambunctious little one always on the move and easily upset. Also, my niece has autism and sometimes tabtrums with her are just unavoidable and there are few things that can help calm her. One of the things that does is actually rubbing a slumberkins on her face!!

Tamara W
Tamara W

August 27, 2018

Some great ideas I never thought of! I’m not only a mom, but also a teacher. This is a great read. Even reading the article felt soothing to me. Thank you!

Samantha
Samantha

August 27, 2018

I love this idea. Now to just get in the habit of doing/using these tools.

Kelley P
Kelley P

August 27, 2018

This would be perfect for my Grandchildren and/or My daughter’s classroom, she is a teacher. Thank you for the Slumberkins brand, it really is enlightening and helpful!

Melissa
Melissa

August 27, 2018

Such a wonderful idea for little people with big feelings :)

Kaitlin O
Kaitlin O

August 27, 2018

This is a genius idea I’m definitely adopting! This would be an amazing tool at home and in the classroom, and you’ve done an amazing job making it so simple and straightforward- an achievable list of things not just a perfect looking photo to try and emulate. This is exactly what our generation of kids needs to become fully realized, empathetic and caring beings. Kudos!

Shelley G
Shelley G

August 27, 2018

I love this. My middle child has trouble communicating frustrations and this may be the very direction we need to follow. Thank you so much for introducing the comfort corner to me. X

Ruby
Ruby

August 27, 2018

As a teacher and a new mommy myself I so appreciate the bridge of tools used in class that are so applicable at home as well. Great concept and I love all the helpful tools you are providing for parents with this. ❤️

Tanya S
Tanya S

August 27, 2018

I love this. It’s so easy to forget that these tiny humans of ours are allowed to have…feelings!! And…bad days!! And trying to help them through this is part of our job…a part of that I struggle with. Sometimes I feel really good about how I/we handle something…and other times, not so much. I really love this idea. I love the message and the practical advice on how to create this sweet space. Thanks for sharing.

Danielle
Danielle

August 27, 2018

Love this! I have a calming basket in my classroom right now, but would love to transform it into a calming corner! Would also love to make one for my kids at home!

Kim Dayley
Kim Dayley

August 27, 2018

I think this is an amazing idea! This looks like the most peaceful and calming place. I thought the same thing as previous poster, I would totally use this place as well.

Tiffanie H
Tiffanie H

August 27, 2018

I love the idea of a safe space to calm down. A felt Velcro board with feelings would by super cool

Tina
Tina

August 27, 2018

this is an amazing idea! id be greatful to have one of these for my son..hes just starting to get into tantrums badly lately snd this would be something great for his mind and soul to relax

Miriam P
Miriam P

August 27, 2018

This is definitely something that I could use for my toddler at home. She’s little but has BIG emotions and sometimes it’s hard to find the right way to address those emotions is a positive but also regulating manner. The Cozy Corner gives her tools so that SHE can work through her feelings in her own way thereby giving her the skill to so on her own in school and in other public settings where I may not be there to help. Great concept!

Nancy Longo
Nancy Longo

August 27, 2018

I love this idea. Working with children who have experienced trauma, a relaxation spot is perfect as it will build security and safety. As a clinical therapist, I am always trying to find way to provide such security and a sense of comfort for the child and their families. It will definitely be a great way for foster parents or parents to truly bond with their child and it is a great way to get parents to unwind after a hectic day of work and various schedules. I would definitely love to see the affirmation cards that you have displayed in a downloadable version as well as it will be great to display in this special corner. Thank you for all that you do as I am already seeing such a great difference this books have provided for my clients and their families. I cannot wait to see what you guys have in store in the future.

Nicole P
Nicole P

August 27, 2018

I love this! I teach first grade and am implementing a calming corner for the first time this year. I would love to use this!

Indhira D.
Indhira D.

August 27, 2018

This is a great idea for all ages. Specially before bedtime, so they can start winding down.

Amy M
Amy M

August 27, 2018

I love the idea of having a space where they can calm down that isn’t a punishment. I’ve found a lot of success with my daughter in saying “take a deep breath” in getting her to calm down, however each child has different personalities and my son often just gets mad and runs to his room on his own to get away from whatever is upsetting him. I love the idea of providing him with tools to help feel better! I think all three of my kids would benefit from it.

What I am wondering about, is, if they are used to this comfort corner at home, how does that play out when you take them elsewhere where they don’t have the comfort corner? This was just an interesting thought I had as I read and made me wonder what will happen when you take them to target and they lose it?! Would love your insights on this part too! 😊

Brittany Hamilton
Brittany Hamilton

August 27, 2018

This is such an amazing idea! I will definitely be doing this for my son, I love the idea of giving them their own relaxation corner for positive development.

Brie F.
Brie F.

August 27, 2018

As a soon-to-be-mother, I am excited to see how this idea blossoms in different spaces. My classroom always had a reading corner that was popular among students who needed some time away, but the intention behind this – that going to your room is for good rather than because you are in trouble – is so thoughtful! Thank you for making it happen.

Amber Musick
Amber Musick

August 27, 2018

Such great ideas. These are things I could see implementing with all my kids, especially my son who has sensory processing disorder.

Tonya Renoud
Tonya Renoud

August 27, 2018

This is such a wonderful idea, I would love to create something like this in my home for my 2 littles. It is so important to give kids their own space that they can go to when they need a moment, somewhere that provides them some comfort and gives them a sense of ownership (of themselves and this special little space). Great post!

Molly Eliza
Molly Eliza

August 27, 2018

This is a wonderful concept. Perfect for when our little one has big emotions!

Kelsey
Kelsey

August 27, 2018

Such great ideas! Thanks for sharing ❤️

rebecca g
rebecca g

August 27, 2018

what a wonderful idea! I want to set up a spot for my toddler, i think it could really help him as he begins to develop awareness of his feelings.

Natalie S.
Natalie S.

August 27, 2018

I think this is so smart! I can see this being used daily in our house since I’m a SAHM and my two youngest girls are with me all day. I believe this would help with overstimulation (which would be a big help as both my girls are rebelling against naps). Thank you so much for sharing this!

Diana McGuire
Diana McGuire

August 27, 2018

As I posted on the Facebook page this is a wonderful idea for all ages . We need a place of comfort and our emotions

elizabeth rodgers
elizabeth rodgers

August 27, 2018

love this! i have anxiety and im sure my daughter will probably have some form as well…this is great for me as a mother to be able to show her that she can have feelings and i will help her work through them!

Ann Marie
Ann Marie

August 27, 2018

This is great! My LO is just starting to throw tantrums over everything and could totally use a comfort corner…

Melissa F.
Melissa F.

August 27, 2018

Thank you so much for putting all this info out here for us. We have nothing like this for my baby approaching two and all of these tantrums sound SO familiar. I just crack and meltdown because there is nothing I can do. These tips and suggestions will really help in our day to day life.

Anna M
Anna M

August 27, 2018

As a mama to a child with Autism a “Peace Corner” as we call it, is essential in our home. It’s a space that is used everyday when my son is feeling overwhelmed. This would be a wonderful addition to our corner. And I love that it’s introducing this idea to more parents and teacher.

crystal geno
crystal geno

August 27, 2018

i think this idea is perfect. my son likes having space when he is upset and i like the idea of a postive place to wind down

Hailey
Hailey

August 27, 2018

Love this idea and I love how easy you made it for us. Can’t wait to make a comfort corner for my girls.

Shawna Hehr
Shawna Hehr

August 27, 2018

I find this to be a wonderful idea. Far too often we critique responses from those who do not know how to properly process emotions. When your younger everything seems larger than life and given thoughtful consideration to what the child would truly benefit from you have created a place to reflect understand and approach struggles with diminishing or dismissive g their significance. I love it and am now considering my own space to create this perfect space.

Rachel Hansen
Rachel Hansen

August 27, 2018

This is seriously an amazing way for a child to have a safe place to relax

Meike M.
Meike M.

August 27, 2018

This is such a great idea and it looks so lovely too!

Marion
Marion

August 27, 2018

That is such an amazing idea ! I think it is very important for children to get their own space to express their feelings or calm down.

You are wonderful !!

Adele
Adele

August 27, 2018

I love this idea so much. My 6 yr old made his own space like this in his closet (don’t worry, it’s large!) a few years ago. After reading this, I am rethinking how their room is laid out!

Karen
Karen

August 27, 2018

Thank you for posting this. I have been going through some trying times with my little and this may be just what we need. I am so thankful for these resources that you provide.

AMANDA B
AMANDA B

August 27, 2018

I LOVE this!! A great way for little ones to just reset. I want one for myself!

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